Do you remember that game we all played growing up called “musical chairs”? The game where there were only a certain number of seats which meant only a certain number of spaces in which to sit when the music stopped. Someone was always left out. Someone was always pushing to get ahead.

Child’s play at its finest.

Except I’ve found myself throughout my adult life still playing musical chairs like I’m a guest at a neighbors birthday party. I’ve pushed and shoved my way to a seat and felt that I was winning at life because of it and I’ve been left out, watching those who had a coveted chair smile and wave like they were in some parade.

I think some of this was perception and some of it was reality, but I’d like to add…more times than not, I’ve been one hundred percent inaccurate when it comes to the motives of other people in the game. They are NOT trying to shove. They are NOT trying to gloat. They are just as caught up AS I AM because WHO in their right mind signs up for this type of fresh hell?

So this past  year, I have been intentionally discovering HOW to remove myself from the game and WHY I ever played it because really, that is what it is. One big fat ginormous game that makes me feel like I’m a part of some three-ring circus, becoming the table talk at some dinner party on a Saturday night. It’s just something so vicious and consuming that we get caught up and swept away…


With WHO? With YOU.

Because it’s never enough.

So what to do? Cheer. The person in front of you and the person behind are NOT your opponent so as the music plays, cheer them on. As you round another chair…tell the one in front to keep going. TO. NOT. STOP. That they have what it takes to lead and lead well. To the one behind, tell them that they can do it. Sincerely. They have on the inside of them what is needed to overcome and push ahead. TO. NOT. QUIT. Seriously, be a cheerleader for hire except your currency is NOT cash but seeing people realize and then exceed their potential.

Cheering is not a gift, a calling or some cute outfit that stands on the sidelines with big hair and a loud voice. You do not need any appointed title…you just need to SEE the one in the front and the one behind you for WHO they are because they are not the threat to your seat.

YOU are.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’There is no commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:30-31